Hemsworth and Cyrus, soon to be husband and wife. (© Mario Anzuoni / Reuters - REUTERS) As noted earlier today in Celebritology and all over the Internet, Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth are now engaged. The news, perhaps not surprisingly, elicited cynical responses from some Celebritology commenters.
One example of said cynicism, via Mags0829: “Omg. Barf.” Gawker readers were even more, uh, candid in their skepticism. “In hillbilly years, Miley is 45, so this news is much delayed,” wrote Sprockett.
Indeed, Cyrus’s age may be a key reason why some greeted word of this matrimonial union with a loud snort that, by the way, everyone in a cubicle within 30 miles of yours’ can totally hear. The actress best known as Hannah Montana is 19, which is still a little young, by most standards, to enter into an “as long as we both shall live” commitment.
Still, Cyrus is hardly a pioneer in this department. Other famous females have gotten engaged or married at roughly the same age. Here are five examples, none of whom — spoiler alert — found a happy ending with their grooms or grooms-to-be. (On the plus side, all of these women continued to have decent careers and other long-term relationships following their early engagements.)
These less-than-successful pairings are not meant as evidence that Cyrus and Hemsworth can’t make their relationship work. What they do suggest is that after extensive (fine, extensive-ish) online research I couldn’t find an example of a famous person who decided to wed at Cyrus’s age and stayed married. If you dear, cynical readers can think of some, by all means, share them in the comments.
Elizabeth Taylor: Taylor became a bride for the first time at age 18, when she wed Conrad “Nicky” Hilton in 1952. The marriage lasted only nine months. But Taylor remained a believer in love, so much so that she married seven additional times afterwards.
Drew Barrymore: She’s happily married now. But she got engaged for the first time, to Leland Hayward, at age 16. (They never married). She then became a bride for real three years later, when she tied the knot at 19 with bartender Jeremy Thomas. That marriage lasted less than two months.
Winona Ryder: Ryder was just 18 when she got engaged in 1991 to Johnny Depp who, like Hemsworth, was older than his bride-to-be. (Edward Scissorhands was 28 at the time.) They broke off the engagement in 1993.
LeeAnn Rimes: Rimes’s first marriage, to dancer Dean Sheremet, took place in 2002, when the country crooner was 19. The two separated in 2009 and divorced in 2010, paving the way for Rimes to marry current husband Eddie Cibrian.
Kate Hudson: The “Almost Famous” star said “I do” to first husband, Chris Robinson, in 2000, when she was 21 — still young, but at least of legal, drinking-age. Their divorce was finalized in 2007.
Source: www.washingtonpost.com
Surrey 124, Sussex 81-2 | County Championship day one report - The Guardian
It is a sorry state of affairs for Mark Ramprakash and Murray Goodwin, two middle‑order county batsmen who have, perhaps, been the most difficult to dismiss this century.
Between them they have scored the best part of 60,000 first-class runs, with Ramprakash averaging 53 and Goodwin 47. They have, for different reasons, played less Test cricket than might be expected, and they have made county bowlers pay for that.
Here, however, Goodwin, in his 40th year, was dropped for the first time by the county he joined in 2001. He was such a prominent figure in that first championship winning season of 2003, but runs have been tight of late.
Ramprakash, meanwhile, in his 43rd year, was dropped by Surrey recently. Recalled to play his first championship match in three weeks, he opened the batting but made only eight before he was caught behind, pushing forward with a diffidence he would have disowned in his pomp.
This, however, is no ground for old batsmen. On Wednesday it was damp and blustery and the day belonged to the bowlers. It usually swings at Horsham, a fact confirmed by the boundary-strolling Jason Lewry, surely one of the best left-arm swing bowlers never to have played for his country.
And on Wednesday, despite the conditions, it swung once more. There was also some seam movement and James Anyon and Steve Magoffin took four wickets apiece as Surrey were bundled out for 124 in just 40.2 overs.
In reply Sussex were 81 for two before the rain fell, terminally this time. Sussex were anxious to get the game as advanced as possible, because the weather forecast for Thursday is even more dire. Apart from the conditions, Sussex bowled and caught well, and there some disappointing strokes from the Surrey batsmen. Of their specialists, Tom Maynard top-scored with 17.
Jason Roy drove to mid-on, a poor shot, and after the dismissal of Ramprakash three men fell with the score on 32. Zander de Bruyn was caught at slip, Rory Hamilton-Brown, the former Sussex player, was caught down the leg side off the first ball he faced, and Steven Davies, as well taken by the diving Luke Wells at third slip.
However, Horsham is also a ground that has rewarded the player prepared to put bat to ball and that is exactly what Gareth Batty and Jonathan Lewis did, to almost double the score, before Murali Kartik hit an unbeaten 23.
When Sussex batted, Ed Joyce nicked a wide one from Lewis to Davies before Chris Nash and Wells ensured the truncated day belonged to them. Davies, at least, was happy with the early finish. He travelled to Birmingham on Wednesday night as wicketkeeping cover for England's Matt Prior.
Source: www.guardian.co.uk
Navigating the Gray Divorce with Dignity - Huffington Post
Is 60 the new 40?
If we follow the guideposts reflected in pop culture, the answer is a resounding "yes." The new face of MAC Cosmetics is a 90-year-old woman. Christopher Plummer won this year's best supporting actor Academy Award for his role in Beginners, in which he portrayed a a 70-year-old man. Online dating services such as Gray Date and Our Time are emerging for singles 50 and up.
The phenomenon of couples divorcing after the age of 50 has grown exponentially in the past two decades. In my own mediation and collaborative law practice, I am seeing a definite trend towards what is known as "gray" divorce. While the overall divorce rate has gotten lower, according to New York State Bar Association Journal, "Boomers, born between 1946 and 1964 already have a divorce rate triple that of their parents." But that doesn't mean their divorces are more contentious than their parents' generation.
To rework a phrase popularized in the '60s, while older couples might choose to separate because they are no longer making love, it is often not because they are making war. What I see in my practice is that older couples are frequently more civil toward each other than their younger counterparts, and their interactions are less characterized by anger.
Older divorcing couples appreciate the fact that time is extremely precious and do not wish to squander it on a lengthy and protracted court battle, nor do they wish to deplete their savings with retirement on the horizon. In addition, many find great benefit when they have the opportunity to work with mediators or collaborative lawyers trained to be creative problem solvers who can find solutions that would not necessarily be available to them if a judge is charged with deciding their fate. Two particularly important issues for these couples are anticipating how to live on fixed incomes and paying for medical insurance. Additionally, as a result of the current economic climate, I have noticed that more frequently, older couples are providing some sort of support for their adult children and/or grandchildren.
I recently mediated a divorce for a couple in their early 60's who, after spending the better part of a year in court with traditional divorce attorneys, realized that they simply were not getting any closer to a resolution. At that point they called upon me, a mediator, to help them bridge what were relatively small gaps rather than continue with the long, protracted and expensive legal battle that they saw eroding the respect and care that they still had for each other after their long marriage. We reached an agreement after just two mediation sessions and in the end, the couple decided that it did not actually serve their interests to divorce at this time. For them, the most viable and practical solution was to divide their assets but to stay married for another five years so that the wife could keep the self-employed husband on her insurance plan and then retire at a time that would maximize the amount of her pension. This solution would have been impossible in a court of law, as a judge would not be empowered to order a distribution of their assets without also ending their marriage (which would thereby end the husband's right to remain covered as a spouse under his wife's medical insurance policy).
My role as a mediator and collaborative attorney is to help the parties avoid court intervention and resolve their issues in a way that will keep the focus on their needs and goals, rather than their "positions." That's why mediation and collaborative law work particularly well with couples who are divorcing later Iife. I've heard many of these couples express how important it is to them to end their marriage in a way that preserves the "good times" of their long-term relationship and accomplishes the dissolution in a way that is cost effective. They might still love each other but simply want to live apart simply because they have grown apart.
Additionally, they recognize that they still have a family unit that needs to be maintained and still want to be able to share family moments as their children get married and have children of their own.
When mediation is not the right fit for a particular couple, such as where one of the spouses doesn't feel capable of effectively advocating for himself or herself, I highly encourage that they consider the team approach of a collaborative divorce. In addition to each spouse having their own attorney, a collaborative divorce team can include a neutral divorce coach who can help the couple in bridging communication gaps in a non-adversarial manner, as well as a neutral financial professional who can help them determine how to utilize their assets and income in way that will allow them to both feel financially secure post-divorce.
In one of my collaborative cases, the wife had received a teaching degree after the children were grown and at 55, she was just starting her career. The husband was a 65-year-old partner in a law firm who was winding his career down. We brought in a divorce financial analyst who was able to help the couple look at their expected incomes from employment as well as retirement and social security and figure out how to help both feel secure enough at these different stages of their work lives.
Ideally, litigation should always be a course of last resort for divorcing couples; this is especially true for older couples who want to preserve what was good about their relationship and move into their post-divorce lives with dignity. Gray divorce clients have learned from their own parent's mistakes and are realizing that not only do they have a choice as to whether and when to divorce, but they also have a choice about how to divorce.
Source: www.huffingtonpost.com
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