The seemingly attractive profiles of prospective brides and grooms on matrimonial sites may not always be as impressive as they appear. A Shahpur resident claims to have been cheated and harassed after being lured by one such profile. Alleging she was harassed for dowry by her husband and in-laws, Shahin has now lodged a complaint with the local police station.
It all started four years ago when Shahin was drawn towards Samir’s particulars on a matrimonial site. As per his profile, he worked with a multinational firm in Delhi and earned a monthly salary of Rs 1.5 lakh. The education and professional qualification columns impressively claimed he was an MTech and MBA. Finding the match “compatible”, she contacted Samir. This lead to an exchange of e-mails and SMSes. Soon they began chatting over the phone and Samir told her that besides his job, he was also involved in the family’s business which was spread across the country.
It was only a matter of time before she asked him to visit Ahmedabad to meet her parents. “Samir told me that his parents, who are natives of Andhra Pradesh, could communicate only in Telugu and may not come for the meeting. He came alone for the engagement and told us that his mother has not been keeping well,” she said. She also claimed that Samir told her parents that he needed to get married at the earliest as he had found a new job in Singapore. She wed Samir in a hastily arranged ceremony in September 2008. Surprisingly, no one from Samir’s family attended the marriage. “Samir told us that his mother was seriously ill and everyone was attending to her.
We were naive and believed him,” she said. Shahin allegedly began to realised she had been conned when Samir took her to Delhi and later to his native place in Hyderabad. “His claims about his high-profile job and family were false. When I questioned him, he had no convincing reply. Instead his family started blaming me,claiming he had lost his job because of me,” she said. Shahin claimed she tried to cope with the hostility, hoping things would improve. Meanwhile, she gave birth to a girl. “The harassment continued. Soon, they began demanding dowry from my parents. After a while, they setn me home, saying they would accept me only after my parents paid them Rs 60 lakh as dowry,” she claimed. Shain alleged that her efforts to lodge a police complaint yielded results only after the intervention of the high court. Sub-Inspector A A Malik of Shahpur police station, who is looking into the complaint, said police were verifying claims by trying to contact Samir and his family.
LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP…
Exercise caution . Don’t get personal with strangers on matrimonial sites Know your limits and be practical about the life partner you want. Verify the personal and professional details of the potential match Keep parents informed about your every move. Family is the best security against con artists. There should be absolutely no exchange of money before marriage. This could be a con job. No matter how decent or genuine the prospective groom may be, avoid getting into a physical relationship before tying the knot
Source: www.ahmedabadmirror.com
Divorce attorneys really like Facebook - Winnipeg Free Press
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THE Wall Street Journal's blog Smart Money reported that although founder Mark Zuckerberg recently took the leap into marriage, Facebook is itself is prompting many divorces around the world, and justices are getting wise, and using evidence on Facebook during divorce hearings.
Smart Money said more than a third of divorce filings in the U.K. last year contained the word Facebook, according to a survey by Divorce Online, a U.K.-based legal services firm. And over 80 per cent of U.S. divorce attorneys say they've seen a rise in the number of cases using social networking, according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.
Gary Traystman, a divorce attorney in New London, Conn., told Smart Money that of the 15 cases he handles per year where computer history, texts and emails are admitted as evidence, 60 per cent exclusively involve Facebook.
"Affairs happen with a lightning speed on Facebook," says K. Jason Krafsky, who wrote the book Facebook and Your Marriage with his wife Kelli. In the real world, he says, office romances and out-of-town trysts can take months or even years to develop. "On Facebook," he says, "they happen in just a few clicks." The social network is different from most social networks or dating sites in that it both reconnects old flames and allows people to "friend" someone they only may have met once in passing. "It puts temptation in the path of people who would never in a million years risk having an affair," he says.
Even when extra-marital affairs develop with no help from Facebook, experts say the site provides a deceptively comfortable forum for people to let off steam about their lives and inadvertently arouse the suspicions of spouses. "The difference with Facebook is it feels safe, innocent and private," says Randy Kessler, an Atlanta, Ga.-based lawyer and current chair of the family law section of the American Bar Association. "People put an enormous amount of incriminating stuff out there voluntarily." It could be something as innocuous as a check-in at a restaurant, he says, or a photograph posted online.
Courts are increasingly examining Facebook for evidence, also, the blog reported.
Last year, a superior district court judge in Connecticut ordered a divorcing couple to hand over the passwords of their respective Facebook accounts to the other's lawyers.
-- McClatchy Tribune News Service
Source: www.winnipegfreepress.com
Gen Next women want to get settled early - New Kerala
Kolkata, June 26 : A study by matrimonial site Jeevansathi.com reveals that women are keen to get married before they reach the age of 25.
Kerala, Andhra Pradesh and Gujarat witness the highest percentage of marriages of girls under the age of 25. 64pc of girls in Kerala, 54pc of girls in Gujarat and 53pc of girls in Andhra Pradesh get married before they turn 25.
Although the above mentioned states take the lead, Punjab, Madhya Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh and Tamil Nadu have also witnessed an increase in the girls opting for early marriages.
On the flip side if one looks at maximum under 25 marriages for men, then Gujarat, Rajasthan and Haryana take the lead.
Commenting on the findings of the study, Rohit Manghnani, Business Head at Jeevansathi.com, said, "While it's a common belief that women today are comfortable with late marriages the survey shows that most young ladies wish to get married before reaching the age of 25.
"This could be due to various socio-economic factors and also due to a personal need for companionship."
A look at the above table clearly shows that the last two years has seen a shift in the age of marriage.
Almost all states show more than 10pc increase in girls getting married under the age of 25. Tamil Nadu especially has taken a lead with 19pc increase in under 25 marriages over the last two years.
While some of this may be due to cultural factors, it may also be attributed to early employment opportunities or lack of them in some states as well. (IBNS)
Source: www.newkerala.com
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